A douchebag is a feminine hygiene product. But, according the Webster’s dictionary, the term Douchebag also refers to a person (usually a man) who is obnoxious, arrogant, oblivious, and irresponsible. Douchebags act this way because they are insecure, anxious, and angry. Underneath this, they are typically dealing with repressed sadness, trauma, and childhood wounds that they don’t know how to heal (I added that part).
The best place to find Douchebags is on social media. Usually, they can be found preaching dogmatic ideologies, attacking people, and complaining about life.
In real life, they are typically more difficult to identify, but one of the top indicators is how they talk about and treat women. They will objectify, blame, and manipulate. It’s common for Douchebags to hang out in groups, thus they won’t get called out for their behavior.
When dealing with a Douchebag, it’s important to have strong boundaries, use clear communication, and remember that they are hurt children, on the inside. This understanding will allow you to stay grounded and it may give them some space to connect with you on a deeper level then they are used to.
No guarantees though! Even if they are acting out, at least you can remain secure in yourself.
I believe that only a small fraction of men are the REAL DEAL when it comes to being a D-bag and those are the ones that have been hurt the most. Most men have the ability to be respectful, self-aware, and kind. They love and care for women, children, and their fellow man.
So, that’s what a Douchebag is…
And, even if we can’t change the weird assimilation of a feminine product into our informal discourse, we can still grow our understanding of what that title really means and learn how to love those guys that seem so difficult to love.