One of the most efficient ways to support your partner and resolve conflict is learning Reassurance. Effective Reassurance requires both left and right brain attunement. You are able to empathize with the emotion AND you are able to connect the dots on why your partner feels the way they do.
Examples of responses that don’t typically work well
“What do you want me to say?”
“Why are you so upset?”
Examples of Effective Reassurance
“Oh, I see that you’re upset. I imagine it’s because I didn’t follow through with what I said I would do. Is that right?”
“Wow, it sounds like you had a really rough day. I could see why you would feel burnt out after you were running the kids around all day and they were complaining.”