I had a revelation several years ago that Men (including myself) are extremely sensitive and don't know it.
Sensitivity - a person's feelings which might be easily offended or hurt
Anger issues = Sensitivity
Addictions = Sensitivity
Depression = Sensitivity
If I'm sensitive, I'm going to feel easily triggered and have emotional reactions. If those emotional reactions stay unresolved, I will feel stress in my mind and body. Once there, I will intuitively create coping strategies. If I'm unaware of my sensitivity, I will blame other people, places or things for my problems.
I may drink, smoke, eat, or watch porn.
I may blow up to release energy.
I may sulk, collapse into despair, or self-sabotage.
I may try to blame, control, or manipulate others.
The list goes on...
What's the solution?
First, I have to acknowledge that I am a sensitive being who is easily hurt or offended. Second, I have to ask for help in learning how to work with my sensitivities and even use them to support myself. Third, I have to integrate this new way by helping others do the same. This is how we bring this Full Circle.