Did anyone ever tell you it’s not okay to Dream? It’s probable that no one ever told you this explicitly but, what about implicitly. It may have sounded like this:
“You do what you have to do to put food on the table.”
“You can’t just run around and do what you want all the time.”
“You need to focus on your education first.”
“Listen, the world is unsafe, unfair, and unforgiving.”
Many people are caught in habitual patterns of work, distraction, intermittent fun/excitement, and then more distraction. This may look like the typical 9-5 with dinner and Netflix rounding out the evening and an emphasis on relaxing, social media, news, and more TV watching over the weekends. There may be fun things involved along the way but, nothing too far out of the ordinary. You may be asking yourself, “Well, what’s wrong with that?”
Nothing. Nothing is wrong with doing this. You’re employed. You’re paying the bills. You’re trying to relax whenever you can. You’re not rocking the boat. You’re trying to set yourself up for a comfortable retirement….
Did that last paragraph fall flat with you?
If it did, then that means you’re a natural Dreamer. You’re a rare breed of human who isn’t okay with the status quo. This may be old news because you’ve probably known this your whole life. You’re different. You look around at the way the world is and you can’t help but think that you can make it better. You may not always share it out loud but, you feel this desire in your heart. You know that there is more to life and you intrinsically seek deeper connection with the people in your life. Comfortable becomes uncomfortable after a while. You want to be challenged, you want to run wild, and you want to be scared sometimes.
Whether you’ve woken up to this reality or not is okay. Life coaching, in whatever form it takes (counseling, therapy, group talk, retreats, mentoring) is basically dreaming out loud. This is done so that you can not only see what you want but, feel it. After some time, you begin to feel it so much that you begin to believe in it. Once you believe in it enough, you begin to trust your own intuition. And, once you trust in your own intuition, you become unstoppable. There are no barriers, only lessons. There are no haters, only projections. There is no hopelessness, only periods of disconnection from ourselves.
We aren’t that good at doing this on our own. This wisdom has been passed down in many forms, for many generations. And, although it seems as basic as the term life coaching itself, it is a complex practice that has to evolve with our ever-changing world and mind. Therefore, the work is never done.
The work is never done but, there’s also no guarantee that it ever starts. So, the big question is, “Have you started the work?”