I know this may sound harsh, but it's true!
If you find yourself constantly people pleasing, enabling someone's unhealthy behavior, or getting run over in your relationships, than consider this for a moment.
What do you get from it?
"I don't get anything! It's terrible!"
What you get, if you remain in the victim seat, is attention, a placeholder for your blame, a shield from confrontation, a place to hide, and praise for being so dang "selfless".
But, it's not selfless to enable other's to stay in their addiction, depression, immaturity, and unawareness because you're doing it for you....not them.
It could be your kids, husband, wife, boss, family member, or friend.
You don't step up, speak up, hold boundaries, or get help for your own stuff because that would ruin the good thing you've got going.
And, I know it might not look good or feel good but, if you're still doing it, that means that your getting enough of a payoff to continue.
Personal growth is not all about self-care, reading books, and meditating.
Sometimes, it's about confronting some stuff that really stings.