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Male Shame
In this episode, I cover why Men don't notice shame, the "nice guy" trap, and how to work with feelings of unworthiness. For more information on our in-person retreats, couples counseling, individual coaching, and...
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How do Men's minds work?
What makes sense to Men? How do we connect things that don't always make sense (feelings) to things that do make sense (facts, reasons, consequences)? Here's a quick episode on how to collect good data and respond.
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The Core Of Every Fight
Every interaction with your partner is an opportunity to feel better or worse about the "deal" you're getting in your relationship. We are always calibrating what feels fair and what does not. In this episode, I bring...
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Family Relationships during the Holidays
Families are the most dysfunctional groups of people on the planet. Change my mind. All the usual norms, agreements, and roles that most organizations use are thrown out the window. There are obvious reasons why, but...
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Anxiety Relief Shortcuts
Anxiety is a mental processing issue. Our thoughts are distorted, disorganized, and disordered. I share some of my best methods and frameworks to deal with anxiety. For more information on our in-person retreats,...
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Assessing Alcohol Dependence (and what to do about it)
1 in 10 Men have Alcohol Use Disorder. How do you assess your relationship to alcohol? There are a few very simple questions to get started. What do you do if you want to try sobriety? I'll give you an easy framework...
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The #1 Value in Marriage
Many Men get stuck because their goal is a better marriage, and they struggle to make it happen. That's a valid goal, but there's an even deeper value that you can anchor to whenever things are tough. It's always...
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How To Stand Up For Yourself (3 Steps)
We all need to be able to stand up for ourselves if we want to feel confident, secure, and connected. This is something that everyone will face in their life. It's worth understanding a simple format so that you can...
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Male Numbness
Most Men deal with emotional numbness. They aren't aware of how they feel, they put effort into growing their ability to feel, and they don't have the language to explain how they feel. They live in their minds. This...
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Trust in Marriage (Big T and little t)
There's a big difference between trusting your partner to clean their dishes and trusting them with your life. We need better language to explain the difference. How do we put more attention on the things that matter...
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Codependency (what it is and what it isn't)
The term codependency was firstĀ used in the 1950s to describe the relationship that some wives had with their alcoholic husbands. Since then, it's been widely interpreted to mean "too dependent" on someone. But how do...
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Male Depression
Disconnection is synonymous with depression. If you're disconnected from yourself, you may not even realize it. In this episode, I talk about the difference between clinical depression and general depression, how you...
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