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Marriage Disrespect
What's the difference between disrespect and sharing feelings? How do we separate personal attacks from feedback? What ways might fail to show respect that you don't see? When do you stop trying to feel more respected...
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5 Specific Phrases You Should Use
One sentence can change the course of a conversation. What's most true is often very simple. It's more efficient to share what matters most instead of wasting time arguing about several different things at once. By...
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5 Types of Trying That Don't Work
I bet you try to make your relationship better all the time. You think about it, you try to talk things out, and you probably have a good idea of what really doesn't work. You're smart. However, there are 5 big...
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What if my wife resents me?
A common experience I hear from Men is that they think their wife resents them. There's often more going on than they realize. Tune in to learn what may be going on with your partner and how you can communicate...
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Marriage Boredom
It's normal to feel bored when your partner doesn't share your passions and interests. However, there's much more that's going on. Boredom is a symptom of an inability to focus and express. I'll give you some new ways...
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You will never fully understand your partner (here's why)
There's no way you will ever fully understand your partner. Thinking you do or saying you do is going to backfire because it's a signal that you're done learning. I back this up with some solid brain research. Tune in...
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Male Shame
In this episode, I cover why Men don't notice shame, the "nice guy" trap, and how to work with feelings of unworthiness. For more information on our in-person retreats, couples counseling, individual coaching, and...
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How do Men's minds work?
What makes sense to Men? How do we connect things that don't always make sense (feelings) to things that do make sense (facts, reasons, consequences)? Here's a quick episode on how to collect good data and respond.
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The Core Of Every Fight
Every interaction with your partner is an opportunity to feel better or worse about the "deal" you're getting in your relationship. We are always calibrating what feels fair and what does not. In this episode, I bring...
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Family Relationships during the Holidays
Families are the most dysfunctional groups of people on the planet. Change my mind. All the usual norms, agreements, and roles that most organizations use are thrown out the window. There are obvious reasons why, but...
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Anxiety Relief Shortcuts
Anxiety is a mental processing issue. Our thoughts are distorted, disorganized, and disordered. I share some of my best methods and frameworks to deal with anxiety. For more information on our in-person retreats,...
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Assessing Alcohol Dependence (and what to do about it)
1 in 10 Men have Alcohol Use Disorder. How do you assess your relationship to alcohol? There are a few very simple questions to get started. What do you do if you want to try sobriety? I'll give you an easy framework...
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